I’m on the fence about current beaux. I love him, he does nice things for me, he helps out a lot (drove his lawn mower all the way to my house, an hour away, and mowed my lawn for me), he loves me, he loves my daughter, he even loves my dog but, sometimes he’s overbearing, a know-it-all, and totally uptight. I don’t need a protector to do all the so-called manly stuff for me. I just want to be allowed to try things myself, to make mistakes without fear of reprimand. I want to unravel my own damn garden hose, thank you very much, and if I wreck it in the process creating irreversible kinks in it, tough shit cupcake, it’s my own damn fault… I don’t want my grammar corrected while I’m telling a story, because I used a word out of context.I tend to go rushing into things and worry about bail money later, and I like it that way!!! I am very likely to start dancing in the produce section at the local grocery making the Bow chicka mow mow sounds of a porn flick while picking out a melody of vegetables for dinner, (check out the latest Axe commercial), HE hates that commercial and would disown me if I ever did that in his presence. Can I learn to live like this and figure out a way to curb my eccentric behaviours ??? He’s absolutely perfect in every other way, EXCEPT for this cavernous difference in our personality.
I’m still going to the gym, doing crazy work outs with the gym natzi, still hurting most of the time, just haven’t been posting it due to a lack of access to blogger. Stupid firewall. I’ve said that before, haven’t I???
I’m back on the road bike. Did roughly 30 Km’s the other day. My “downstairs” was hurting even though I had the fancy diaper shorts on, but quickly recovered (once I got off the smallest bike seat on the face of the planet). My knees are wrecked. I think I’m going to have to have the pedal-seat alignment rechecked. Fell twice. Both times I fell to the left as I was frantically trying to remove my left foot from the pedal clips. Both times I was standing still, in my driveway. Both times were absolutely humiliating. Like the shorts aren’t humiliating enough ??
Finally bought my own digital camera. It’s not my dream camera, but it’s great for right now. It will one day be a “back up “camera to the better one I’d like to have. It’s the Nikon D80. It came with a stock lens. (18 to 135) pretty good range. Has plastic lens mount which sucks, but I don’t plan on using that lens for long if I can help it. Speaking of pictures, I’ve volunteered my services to a company that does photo restoration to areas like Louisiana after Katrina. Obviously not as important as food, shelter etc… but restoring your memories is a valuable thing to people who’ve lost everthing. Check it out, , http://operationphotorescue.com/index.html if you can operate Photoshop and restore a photograph, you might be interested. You’ll be doing your fellow humans a service and you wont even have to leave your own living room. J
I’ve been getting the hiccups a lot lately. What does that mean? Anyone have any idea?
Ex beaux from a squillion years ago, has been texting me to get together for a drink or BBQ, which would be fine, because it’s been a really long time, there is no residual feelings and we always said we’d remain friends. However, I happen to know that the only reason for the sudden re-interest in being my friend is because he’s recently broken up with his girlfriend, whom I actually know because we’re in the same book club. I like her, I think she’s nice. He messed up there, cuz she’ real pretty too. I might go, and call him on it. Would be cruel, but I’m not a “back up” friend for when it’s convenient for him. Narcissistic bastard! Woo, did I type that out loud? Tee hee What is wrong with the human race. There is soo many people that are soo wrapped up in their own personal gratification that they don’t take a moment to notice the effects they have on the people around them. I know there’s a great number of good people out there, I just happen to meet a lot of the former character types. Sure, it’s important to look out for number one, but you really have to take a step back once in a while and make sure you’re not hurting any one in the process, because part of taking care of number one is ensuring you’re surrounded by a great support network of close friends and family. I can guarantee they wont stick around long if you wander through life like a bullet going straight for the target regardless of what’s in the way.
Later Gaters
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"I can guarantee they wont stick around long if you wander through life like a bullet going straight for the target regardless of what’s in the way."
I love that! That is so true! And I agree, I think the boy just needs some attention at the moment.
It sounds to me like your beaux has what I call Prince Syndrome. Always wanting to rescue you whether you need rescuing or not. It can be sweet, but it can also feel like you have an unwanted bodyguard... I hope he can chill out a little because over all he seems like such a great guy--especially since you share so many of the same interests.
Congrats on your new camera!!!
--snow
Great blog! I will be back for more!! -0-0-
I have to agree with Snowelf. There are 7 Character Traits for guys, and the "hero" is by far the most common. Guys always want to save their damsel in distress, either from a mugger or a bug. Guys ALWAYS want to fix stuff, be it friendships, cabinet doors or vocab.
ultimately, this is your choice to ask yourself if you will be able to accept these flaws of his without sticking a butterknife through his skull.
And congrats on the Nikon D-80. I have a D-50 myself and don't have a single bad thing to say about it. Your going to be amazed at what that thing can do!
Good Luck
OH Sigh! I think I need to elaborate more about said beaux. He doesn't just want to be the hero. He wants to take over and mold me into something I'm not. He already knows everything(he seems to think) thus making it impossible to talk to him about anything. If he figures he knows what I'm going say or knows all about what I'm talking about, he'll shush me...ahem, excuse me? It leaves me with nothing to say or talk about. He makes fun of the things I like if he doesn't happen to like them. Like the music I listen to etc... He has no patients for me either. He snapped at me yesterday while looking at his garden because he figured I'd let the dog run all through his newly planted vedgetables, without giving me the benifit of the doubt that I'd actualy hang onto her leash and prevent it from happening, which I already had a good hold on her. It just gets my back up like that...OYE VEY!!
Flash: I'm curious about those other 6 character traits. I'm obviously unawares to them. he he
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The Hero: Always tries to see the one he loves by trying to "fix" all their problems. Everything has an answer and everything can be fixed. Usually seeks out a mate with some "baggage", and always has the answer to every problem. Sever cases will show signs of empowerment when they can fix something that really doesn't need to be fixed at all, along with emotional control on others. Childhood usually displays these people as mild bullies, because of the need of control. This is by far the most common trait amongst guys.
The Mama's Boy: Seeks out the attention and approval of their mate and peers. Anytime an accomplishment is achieved, the Mama's boy will brag and strut, looking for praise. They will usually seek out a stronger woman for the relationship. everything they do will have some sort of "clearance" before it's put into play. Sever cases of this will stem to finding a girl with the same name or characteristics of their actual mother. S&M usually finds it way into their lives in some form or another.
The Victim: Everything is wrong in so many ways, and nothing can be good. The Victim usually complains about everything, from work to life. Even when presented with something good, a flaw will be found in either the event, object, or themselves. They usually seek out "Nurse" characteristic in women, because they will provide the "poor you" mentality and take pity on this soul. Unintentional suicide is usually very common with this type. As a child, the Victim will usually stray away from peers because they feel "not worthy" to befriend them.
The Adult Child: This person never grew up mentality. they always have t be doing something that they see as fun, including sports and drugs. The Adult Child usually will work for minimum wage in a job that allows himself to be "free". Debt is a massive problem with this type because they tend to spend every dollar they get on "toys" for themselves. They seek the same in a mate, girls who still dress like their 18 and drink themselves into a stupor or support their excessive lifestyle. Adult ADD is extremely common, although sometimes misdiagnosed. As a child, this was the kid who wouldn't sit still and always had to run, despite failing grades in school. And if they don't get what they want, prepare for a massive temper tantrum that usually leads to physical violence.
The All Star: It's his way or no way because he's the best in everything. Sports, money, job, whatever it is, he feels he will dominate it. Bragging is like a third hand to him, and he knows how to use it. He'll be the first guy to tell you what kind of car he drives and how much money is in his bank account. He a bragger, and he doesn't care. He seeks out a mate who is usually very subordinate, who will allow him to strut and show off his feathers. The mate is usually a "Trophy Wife", perfect body that the doctors built, and he will brag about that. As a child, the All Star was usually the guy who when making a jump shot from 8 feet in a game of pick up basketball, he will brag for 9 years about. Suicide is common to those in the All Star category who lose out to another. Lost a promotion to another will usually mean a drinking binge of hard booze and possibly suicide or violence against another.
The Rouge: The rarest of the traits, the Rouge prefers to stand in the sidelines of life and watch others. They'll never seek out a mate, instead choosing self pleasuring to thought about that person. The internet has benefited them the most, giving them a portal to the outside world without actually experiencing it. Sever cases of the Rouge become Rapist, murderers, child molesters. As a child, he was usually raised by an extremely strict mother who made him feel he was the greatest gift to the world and no one else measured up to him, usually told not to interact with people because their dirty, or there's something wrong, or that they will just plain hurt that person. Suicide is usually never an option to this group, because they see their way as the right way.
The Renter: Everything is temporary, and it will change very soon. That's the mentality of the Renter. The Renter will usually date most of his life, never settling down with 1 person in fear something is better right around the corner. If they do marry, they will either sabotage the marriage to force a divorce or go into a deep state of depression. Furniture and appliances usually never last more then 2 years, because they will buy something better as soon as it comes out. Apartments are usually the choice of the domicile, but owing a few homes in different areas are are also an option. These types are the model for the "Bachelor" lifestyle. Jobs are usually higher paying positions, usually sales. Mates are usually on the upper end of the beauty scale, usually upper-class, usually older. Sex is a driving factor in their lifestlye and is seeked out on a regular basis. childhood usually comes from a broken home, with 1 parent, and the constant rotation of new people in the house.
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Now, not all guys fall into just 1 trait. Most will be a majority of one with traits of 2 others. Hope that satisfied your curiosity...
I'm not finished the post yet, but do you mean to say your current man drove his lawn mower to your house... and that it took him an HOUR to get through town riding the damn thing?
This Forest Gump. It's love.
Seems like the "hero" trait is pretty good ... compared to all the other traits. Doesn't mean he should ever "shush" you (well unless there was a killer in the house and he wanted to hide you).
McB, if you can't be yourself with him, then it isn't right. Controlling types tend to get more controlling the longer you are with them, not less so. He might love you, but if he doesn't love you for who you are - dancing in the produce line and all - then it isn't right.
Hope you can work things out, but take care of yourself.
Sounds like you would be doing him a friendly favour by letting him know what he might have lost out on with the mutual girl-friend.
As for your man, tell him about it - as Billy Joel might say.
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